The Art of Decoding: Can You Help Her Read Her Body?
"Once she can name the physical sensation - where it lives, what it looks like, what shape or colour it has - it begins to lose its grip."
When exam pressure becomes physical - that weight on the chest, the knot in the stomach, the tension in the shoulders - logic and willpower alone won't shift it. In this episode, we explore what happens when your daughter's nervous system perceives threat, why telling her to "try harder" actually makes things worse, and the four powerful mini conversations you can have this week to help her move through pressure rather than staying stuck in it.
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL DISCOVER:
Why the nervous system speaks in sensations, not words - and what that means for supporting your daughter through exam pressure
The neuroscience behind physical stress responses (and why "amygdala hijack" explains so much of what you're seeing)
How changing one word can shift her entire physiology
One girl's remarkable transformation: from stress-induced hives and panic attacks to calm confidence, top exam results and solo travel
Four practical conversations you can have this week to help your daughter release physical pressure
A 60-second guided practice you can experience yourself
KEY INSIGHTS FROM THIS EPISODE:
"When your daughter's brain perceives danger, her amygdala hijacks the prefrontal cortex - the part responsible for rational thinking. Telling her to 'just push through' is like asking someone to use a tool that's just not available."
"The physiological response to nervousness and excitement is almost identical. Same elevated heart rate, increased awareness, strong energy surge. The only difference? The label we give it."
"Once she can name the physical sensation - where it lives, what it looks like, what shape or colour it has - it begins to lose its grip."
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Research & Experts Referenced:
Dr. Stephen Porges - Polyvagal Theory
Daniel Goleman - "Amygdala Hijack" concept
Marisa Peer - Hypnotherapist and author on subconscious reprogramming
FOUR CONVERSATIONS TO TRY THIS WEEK:
Where is the pressure coming from? Who's creating it? What specifically feels overwhelming?
How and where does it show up in her body? What does it feel like? Where do you notice it? If it had a shape or colour, what would it be?
What would help right now? Would breathing into it help? Speaking reassuringly to yourself? What do you need to feel 1% calmer?
What feels exciting underneath the pressure? What do you actually want? If it did feel good, what would that look like?
CONNECT WITH KATE
Email: Questions or topics to cover? hello@coachingmotherhood.com
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Important: This podcast is for educational purposes only, not medical advice. If your daughter is experiencing severe anxiety, please consult qualified healthcare professionals.
